Becoming an au pair in the United States is a great opportunity to immerse yourself in a new culture, improve your language skills, and experience life abroad in a structured and supportive environment. However, the process to become an au pair requires careful planning, the right documentation, and making the best possible match with a host family. That’s why Au Pair Weekend has put together this convenient guide to help you navigate the steps and understand what the experience entails.
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The first step in becoming an au pair in the United States is finding an agency to represent you. U.S. law requires au pairs to go through designated agencies so that the process can be regulated, safe, and in line with both immigration and childcare guidelines.
Your au pair agency will help you with:
Choosing the right agency is a crucial decision that will have a big impact on your experience. Different agencies offer varying levels of support, services, and fees. Make sure that you research several agencies, read reviews from former au pairs, and compare the benefits each agency provides. Check out the Department of State's list of list of au pair agencies (also known as "sponsor organizations").
The agency is responsible for finding families that meet your needs, but ultimately you are the only person who can decide which family is right for you. You’ll have the opportunity to review potential host families and conduct interviews with them. This process usually takes between 3 and 6 months, depending on the availability of families looking for an au pair.
Once your agency presents you with potential host families, you will begin the interview process. This is an extremely important step to ensure that you and the host family are compatible.
During the interviews, ask the host family specific questions about their expectations, the children’s routines, and what a typical day looks like in their household. Remember, you’re not only agreeing to provide childcare, but also committing to live with the family for an extended period of time. You’re not just interviewing your potential bosses, but also your potential roommates.
Some questions to consider during these interviews include:
The interview process is a two-way street; not only should the family feel comfortable with you, but you should feel confident that you can live and work in their home. Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it's better to wait for the right match than to accept an offer too quickly.
Once you’ve matched with a host family, the next step is to apply for a J-1 visa, which allows you to live and work as an au pair in the United States. The J-1 visa is a non-immigrant visa that promotes cultural exchange, and the au pair program falls under this category. Your agency will assist you with this step.
The application process for the J-1 visa involves several steps, including filling out an online visa application form and scheduling an interview at the U.S. embassy or consulate in your home country. During your visa interview, you’ll need to provide various documents, such as:
The interview is generally straightforward, and as long as you meet all the program requirements, you should not have any difficulties obtaining the visa. However, make sure you’re prepared to answer questions about your intentions, your host family, and your understanding of the program.
If you need help preparing your J-1 visa application, your au pair agency should be able to guide you through the process.
After your visa is approved, the final step is preparing to travel. Your au pair agency will likely help you with travel logistics, such as booking flights and providing you with any pre-departure training that may be required. Some agencies offer an orientation program upon arrival in the U.S., which gives you a chance to meet other au pairs and learn more about the cultural and legal aspects of living in the country.
Before you leave, take time to mentally prepare as well. Moving to another country for a year can feel overwhelming, so it’s important to have a clear understanding of what to expect. Stay in contact with your host family throughout the planning process and ask any final questions you may have.
Packing thoughtfully is also important. Bring essential items that will help you feel comfortable in your new environment, but avoid overpacking, as you’ll likely accumulate new belongings throughout the year.
Once you arrive in the U.S., your exciting year as an au pair begins! Most au pairs work for 12 months, though many opt to extend their stay (more on that later). During this time, you will provide childcare for up to 45 hours per week, while also living with your host family and becoming part of their daily life.
As an au pair, your primary role is to care for the children of your host family. Your specific duties will vary depending on the ages of the children and the family’s routine, but common tasks might include:
While your main responsibility will be childcare, it’s important to maintain a good work-life balance. Au pairs are legally entitled to regular time off, including at least one full weekend per month. You’ll also have the opportunity to take vacations, either with your host family or independently.
One unique aspect of the U.S. au pair program is the educational requirement. To maintain your J-1 visa status, you’ll need to complete the equivalent of 6 credits from an accredited U.S. college or university. This requirement is designed to enhance your cultural exchange experience by allowing you to meet other students, expand your knowledge, and develop skills that will benefit you in the future. You can take classes on any topic, so be sure to take some time and find a course that interests you.
Many au pairs worry about balancing their work schedule with attending college classes. Fortunately, programs like Au Pair Weekend offer flexible options that allow you to complete your credits online or during weekend courses. This is particularly helpful for au pairs who are busy working during the week or don’t live near a college campus.
The added bonus of programs like Au Pair Weekend is that they often include opportunities for travel. You can earn your credits while visiting a new city, meeting other au pairs, and participating in unique cultural activities. Some au pairs take advantage of this to explore different parts of the U.S., all the way from New York to Los Angeles. Sign up for our "First to Know" mailing list to be informed when a new course registration opens!
At the end of your first year as an au pair, you’ll have three main options to consider. Depending on your goals and experiences, you can:
Becoming an au pair in the United States is a rewarding and life-changing experience. From your first search for the perfect host family to the cultural exchange that takes place throughout your stay, being an au pair offers a chance to grow, learn, and immerse yourself in a new culture.
The journey may be challenging at times, but the memories, friendships, and skills gained along the way make it an unforgettable adventure. Whether you choose to extend your stay or return home after your year, the experience will undoubtedly shape your perspective on the world and leave a lasting impact on your life.
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